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Mar 25, 2024

Love of fate

Amor fati is a Latin term meaning "love of fate". It refers to the position of accepting everything that has happened in one's life without sorrow and accepting all as necessary, irrespective of whether it is good, bad, painful, happy, sorrowful or sad.

Being great means loving everything that happens in your life, whether good or bad. It's like wanting things to stay just as they are without wishing for them to change. Instead of just accepting what you can't change, you should love it, embrace it, and find value in every moment, both happy and sad.

Accept things fate brings to you with all your heart. Love whatever is before you. Accept the universe for what it is.

Eternal Recurrence is another concept that Nietzsche mentions. It questions how one would feel if one discovered that every event in life and every choice one had made, either authentically or otherwise, would recur an infinite number of times.

“What if some day or night a demon were to steal after you into your loneliest loneliness and say to you:

👄 “ This life as you now live it and have lived it, you will have to live once more and innumerable times more ... ”

👿Would you not throw yourself down, gnash your teeth, and curse the demon who spoke thus?

Or

Have you once experienced a tremendous moment when you would have answered him:

💗“ You are a god; I have never heard anything more divine.”💗💕

Authenticity, the main aim of Existentialism, is the full acknowledgement and expression of one's freedom to choose one's actions and to choose one's self within the context of one's situation. This means not conforming to what others, "they," and " society " expect of one.

And acknowledge full responsibility for one's actions and what one has made of oneself without sorrow or regret.

“My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendaciousness in the face of what is necessary—but love it”

In conclusion, the philosophy of amor fati teaches us to embrace every moment of our lives, irrespective of its nature—good or bad. It also encourages us to take responsibility for our actions and not conform to societal expectations. The concept of Eternal Recurrence further emphasizes the importance of accepting our fate and finding beauty in it.






Mar 23, 2024

Who needs a treasure map when we have our own shadows to explore?



Carl Jung said, " Everyone has a shadow; the less it is integrated into an individual's conscious life, the darker and denser it becomes. Only those who stand in darkness do not have a shadow. "

Shadow Work is a process of self-discovery that involves exploring the parts of ourselves that we have repressed or denied. It is a way to uncover our unconscious patterns and beliefs and bring them into the light of awareness to heal and grow.

Exploring the shadow self can be a powerful way to understand and integrate the hidden or unconscious aspects of our personality, thoughts, emotions, and behaviours.

Based on analytical psychology principles, there are several ways to delve into your shadow self:

 1. Self-Reflection and Journaling: This involves taking the time to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours and considering keeping a journal to write down your innermost thoughts, dreams, fears, and desires. By writing, you can bring unconscious patterns to light and gain insights into your shadow self. 

2. Dream Analysis: Paying attention to your dreams and keeping a dream journal can offer valuable insights into your subconscious mind. Analyzing your dreams can reveal hidden desires, fears, and unresolved issues that make up your shadow self. 

3. Therapeutic Techniques: Working with a qualified psychologist or therapist who specializes in analytical psychology or Jungian therapy can help you explore your unconscious mind, confront your shadow aspects, and work towards integrating them into your conscious awareness. 

4. Creative Expression: Engaging in creative activities such as art, music, writing, or dance can be a powerful way to express and explore hidden emotions, fears, and desires that reside in your shadow self.

 5. Exploring Personal Triggers: Paying attention to situations or interactions that trigger strong emotional responses can offer clues about aspects of your shadow self that may need exploration and integration. 

6. Shadow Work Exercises: These exercises are designed to help you confront and integrate your shadow self. They may involve identifying and naming your shadow traits, acknowledging your hidden fears and desires, and accepting all parts of yourself without judgment. 

7. Seek Feedback from Others: Asking trusted friends, family members, or a therapist for feedback on your behaviours and patterns can provide valuable insights into aspects of your shadow self that you may not be fully aware of.


We cannot heal what we Hide, Ignore, Cover, or Avoid; they are all our Shadows. By accepting our shadow self, we can start to see how our thoughts and emotions influence our behaviour. When you’re aware of this, you can take control and empower yourself to live life more deliberately and consciously.

By engaging in the above practices and techniques, we can begin the journey of exploring and integrating our shadow self. Embracing all aspects of self, even the hidden or uncomfortable parts, can lead to greater self-awareness, personal growth, and a more fulfilling life.

Even famous people like Jesus and Socrates faced challenges for daring to speak out against wrongdoings and shining a light on the shadows of others. Remember to Be brave and willing to explore your shadows and also help others explore theirs.
I just started my journey...



Mar 22, 2024

Break up with pain, by wearing the thought control helmet

"I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn't believe them, I didn't suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional."  


— Byron Katie




Emotional healing is a complex process that involves various techniques and practices to help individuals acknowledge, accept, integrate, and process their emotions. It involves several steps : 


The first step towards emotional healing is acknowledging painful life experiences. Acknowledgement is the process of bringing unconscious material into conscious awareness. This aligns with the principles of free association, verbal expression, etc. Trauma, strong emotions, and painful life experiences are often suppressed or denied, which can lead to psychological distress. By acknowledging and exploring these experiences, individuals can begin to release and discharge repressed or unconscious emotions. One way is by the process of catharsis, which involves talking about traumatic experiences or expressing intense feelings. 


According to Freud, catharsis involves expressing and discharging repressed or unconscious emotions, which decreases psychological tension. Therefore, writing your pain on paper can ALSO help you externalize and gain a better understanding of it. You can find potential solutions or a way out by looking at your pain objectively. So, To reach rational and realistic perspectives, examine your thoughts.


The next step towards emotional healing is allowing and accepting emotions. It is essential to acknowledge and accept all emotions, including those that are perceived as negative or uncomfortable. By creating a safe and non-judgmental environment, individuals can begin to express and work through their emotions, allowing for a deeper understanding and acceptance of their inner world.





Integrating painful experiences is also crucial for emotional healing. Integration involves merging conflicting or fragmented aspects of the self to achieve a more cohesive and unified sense of identity. This process can be achieved through self-reflection, interpretation of the unconscious, and exploring the impact of past experiences on current behaviour. 


Finally, processing strong emotions is an essential component of emotional healing. With the help of a psychologist, individuals can work through intense emotions associated with past traumas, conflicts, and unresolved issues. This process involves understanding the underlying meaning and significance of these emotions. By exploring the origins of strong emotions, uncovering unconscious motivations, and gaining insight into emotional patterns, individuals can begin to resolve inner conflicts and achieve emotional healing. 



Remember that the wound is not your fault, but the responsibility of healing it lies with you. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Our thoughts do not hold power; instead, we control our thoughts. When we identify and believe in our thoughts, we give them power, which can result in suffering. The actual issue is our attachment to our thoughts, and recognizing this can bring about transformation in an instant. When experiencing EMOTIONAL PAIN, simply observe and learn, as life is trying to teach you something. Rather than attempting to numb the pain through distraction, forget yourself in thinking and allow yourself to feel

it."

Everything that can go wrong MAY go wrong; we all will die one day,  families can die, anything can happen, You may suffer badly, people may harm you, we can Face Failures; you could be innocent yet can get trapped or blamed, and that's what life is all about. It won't be fair. To be Angry about it is Not Loving life. Amor fati is a Latin phrase that means "love of fate" or "love of one's fate". This phrase is used to describe an attitude in which one accepts everything that happens in their life, including suffering and loss, as good or, at the very least, NECESSARY.

Overall, emotional healing involves deep self-exploration, insight, and integration of all aspects of the self. By acknowledging, allowing, accepting, integrating, and processing painful life experiences and strong emotions, individuals can work towards a more profound understanding of themselves and move towards emotional well-being and growth. With the right support of others or self-help, healing is possible to achieve a sense of inner peace and emotional balance.


 P.S : Diversions given below are only a temporary escape 










Mar 21, 2024

May be Batman feared bats and Spiderman suffered arachnophobia! are u sure they are Perfect ???


 

Vulnerability is essential for human growth and development. Our weaknesses and limitations, often seen as negative traits, provide us with opportunities for growth and transformation. This is because our vulnerabilities reveal our mind's underlying conflicts and struggles. The hero archetype, as described by Carl Jung, embodies the idealized version of ourselves that we aspire to become. The hero is someone who is willing to face their fears and overcome obstacles to achieve their goals. But in order to do so, the hero must first embrace their vulnerabilities and weaknesses. Growth occurs when we confront problems and struggle to master them. Through that struggle, we develop new aspects of our skills, capacities, and views about life.

Vulnerability is also necessary for the development of empathy and compassion. When we acknowledge our own weaknesses and limitations, we become more attuned to the struggles of others. This allows us to connect with others on a deeper level and to understand their experiences more fully. 

On the other hand, an immortal person with no weakness or vulnerability cannot be a hero. This is because the hero's journey is one of transformation and growth; without vulnerability, there can be no growth. An immortal person who is invincible  would have no need for growth or transformation, and therefore could not be a hero.

In conclusion, the " hero " model is a powerful symbol of human potential and transformation. It reminds us that our vulnerabilities and weaknesses are not something to be ashamed of, but rather, they are opportunities for growth and development. By embracing our vulnerabilities, we can become more empathetic and compassionate, and we can achieve our goals through the hero's journey of growth and transformation.


Heroic deeds can be performed only by 

❤ someone vulnerable ❤.
 

An immoral person with no weakness cannot become a hero




Video Song Lyrics - 

Life has made him stronger,

it made him work a bit harder,

he got to think and act a little wiser,

this world has made him a..... fighter.....

Kaalam nanu tarimindho soolamlaa ediristaa

samayam saradaa padite samaramlo gelichestaa..

Life started to be faster,

made him had a little think smoother,

he's living on the edge to be smarter,

this world has made him a fighter

Mar 19, 2024

"self-realization" -A Pill that promises to unlock true potential, with ridiculous side effects

Did you know that our personality and behaviour are shaped by unconscious conflicts and desires that mostly arise from early childhood experiences? 


That's what psychoanalysis theory emphasizes on - the importance of the unconscious mind.

Psychoanalysis also offers a framework for understanding how to achieve self-realization - gaining insight into one's true nature, purpose in life, and potential for growth and fulfilment.

 Sounds fascinating, right? 


The ego, which is the conscious, rational, and organized part of our personality, mediates between the demands of the primitive, instinctual part and the internalized moral standards and ideals of society. 

 To achieve self-realization, we need to bring our unconscious conflicts and desires into conscious awareness and integrate them into our ego. This process involves acknowledging and accepting the opposing forces within ourselves and finding a balance between them. 

For example, balancing the opposing forces of confidence and humility can be challenging but crucial for a fulfilling life. It can be understood in terms of the ego's struggle to balance the need for self-esteem and the need for social acceptance. A person who is overly confident may be seen as arrogant and insensitive to others, while a person who is overly humble may struggle with low self-esteem and lack of assertiveness.

 By understanding hidden aspects of ourselves, uncovering beliefs, past experiences and roots of current behaviours and emotions, and working through unresolved issues, we can gain insight into our unconscious conflicts and desires. 

This process can lead to a greater sense of self-awareness, emotional well-being, and fulfillment in life. 

Are you ready to explore your personality more deeply and work towards self-realization?



Mar 17, 2024

Double-Bind Manipulation

A double bind is a complex communication concept that involves the imposition of demands or expectations on an individual that ultimately leads to a lose-lose situation. It was originally introduced by anthropologist Gregory Bateson and his colleagues in the context of family but has since been applied to various interpersonal interactions and situations.

 Below are the key elements of a double bind:

1. Contradictory Messages: In a double-bind scenario, an individual is presented with two or more contradictory messages or commands, making it challenging to discern the right course of action. These messages may be communicated explicitly or implicitly, leading to confusion and uncertainty. 

2. Impossibility of Resolution: The nature of a double bind is such that there is no feasible way for the individual to satisfy all requirements simultaneously. Any response will result in repercussions, reinforcing the feeling of being stuck in a no-win situation.

 3. Emotional Impact: Double binds have a significant psychological effect on individuals. They can create feelings of frustration, anxiety, guilt, and powerlessness. The individual may experience internal conflict and struggle to make decisions under such circumstances. 

4. Manipulative Intent: Double binds are often used as a form of psychological manipulation. By placing someone in a lose-lose situation, the person creating the double bind may seek to control the individual's behaviour, thoughts, or emotions through confusion and coercion.

 Examples of double binds can be found in various contexts, including family relationships, workplace dynamics, and interpersonal interactions. 

Example: A parent who tells their child to express their emotions but punishes them for doing so creates a double bind. The child is given conflicting messages about whether it is safe to share their feelings. 

Recognizing double binds is essential for maintaining healthy boundaries, communication, and relationships.

By understanding the dynamics of conflicting expectations and learning to assert one's needs and limits, individuals can navigate double-bind situations more effectively and protect their well-being and autonomy.

Self-help strategies to handle a double bind situation: 

1. Identify the Double Bind: Recognize when conflicting demands or expectations are being imposed on you, creating a lose-lose situation. 

2. Stay Calm: Maintain composure and emotional awareness to think clearly. Follow Grounding Techniques to Relax ->  grounding-techniques#physical-techniques

3. Seek Clarification: Ask for clarification or feedback to better understand the expectations. 

4. Communicate Openly: Express your concerns and feelings about the conflicting demands in a calm and assertive manner.

5. Set Boundaries: Clearly define your limits and values to protect your well-being. 

6. Prioritize Self-Care: Focus on self-care practices to manage stress and maintain emotional balance. 

7. Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals for guidance and support. 

8. Consider Options: Explore alternative solutions or compromises that may help alleviate the double bind. 

9. Evaluate Consequences: Assess the potential outcomes of different responses to make an informed decision. 

10. Practice Assertiveness: Assert your needs and preferences while respecting the boundaries of others. 

11. Challenge Assumptions: Question the validity of the conflicting demands and consider alternative perspectives. 

12. Focus on Solutions: Shift your mindset towards problem-solving and finding constructive ways to address the double bind. 

13. Take Breaks: Step away from the situation temporarily to regain perspective and clarity. 

14. Practice Mindfulness: Stay present and focused on the current moment to reduce anxiety and overwhelm. 

15. Evaluate Relationships: Consider the impact of the double bind on your relationships and well-being.

 16. Learn from Experience: Reflect on past experiences with double binds to identify patterns and learn from them. 

17. Focus on Growth: Use the experience of dealing with a double bind as an opportunity for personal growth and resilience.




Snakes on all sides ? bus bussshh

 Learning to handle danger is a crucial skill in life. This is particularly true when it comes to handling snakes. If you don't learn the proper way to interact with snakes, you could end up suffering from a snake bite that could lead to serious injury or even death. However, if you learn how to handle snakes safely, you can extract their venom and use it for medicinal purposes or even to control the rat population in your area. 

The key to handling snakes safely is to become immune to their attacks. This means that you need to learn how to handle snakes in a way that minimizes the risk of a bite. You can do this by practising proper snake-handling techniques.

It's also important to have a healthy respect for the MANIPULATIVE snake rather than fearing them. This will help you approach them in a calm and controlled manner, which is essential for safe handling. By respecting snakes and learning how to handle them safely, you can collect their venom without fear and use it for beneficial purposes.

Finally, remember to always THINK BIG and not get bogged down by minor details. When it comes to handling snakes, it's important to focus on the big picture and the potential benefits of learning this important skill. Don't let the fear of snakes hold you back from achieving your goals.


Mar 16, 2024

Triangulation TRAP = త్రికోణ vyuham

 Triangulation is a manipulative tactic used by Manipulators to control and manipulate their victims. It involves involving a third party in a situation to manipulate the outcome, creating a sense of competition or conflict between the victim and the third party.

Sometimes, it also includes Distorted truths, such as manipulating facts or information to skew perceptions or mislead others for personal gain.

Here are some signs of triangulation and self-help strategies to handle it:


 Signs of Triangulation:


1. The Manipulator exaggerates a problem or situation to get a reaction from others. 


2. They show interest in someone else to get attention from their partner. 


3. They compare their partner to other people in a disparaging way to make them feel insecure and inferior.


 4. They keep secrets from their partner, making them feel left out and insecure. 


5. They distort the truth or deny events to make their partner question their own reality.


 6. They blame their partner for the problems in the relationship and seek support from outside sources. 


7. They have an affair to make their partner feel jealous and insecure.


 8. They use the children to get their partner to do what they want or to make their partner feel guilty. 


9. They isolate their partner from their friends and family, making them more dependent on the Manipulator for support.


 10. They overcompensate their affections and love towards others to make their partner feel ignored and undervalued. 


11. They have different standards for their partner than for themselves, making their partner feel inadequate.


12. They create drama or problems, causing their partner to question their own judgment or sanity. 


13. Lowering someone's self-esteem or confidence with the help of other people which makes them more susceptible to manipulation.


14. Group PRESSURE: Using the  influence of a group of people, family members or social circle to manipulate your behaviour or decisions


15. Manipulating by highlighting differences or similarities with other people, like comparing a wife with his mother or sister, to influence behaviour or opinions.

Self-Help Strategies to Handle Triangulation:


 1. Recognize the Signs of Triangulation: The first step is to recognize when triangulation is happening. It often involves the Manipulator using a third party to create tension and drama between you and another person. 


2. Don’t Engage in the Drama: It’s important not to engage in the drama. Manipulators thrive on conflict and drama, and if you respond to their manipulation, it will only give them more power. 


3. Set Healthy Boundaries: Setting healthy boundaries is crucial when dealing with Manipulators, especially when it comes to triangulation. Be clear with the Manipulator that their behavior is not acceptable, and let them know that you will not be part of their drama. 



4. Dealing with a manipulative person and their tactics, like triangulation, can be extremely stressful and emotionally draining. Therefore, it is crucial for you to prioritize your self-care. You should engage in activities that make you feel good and help you relax, such as exercise, meditation, spending time with friends and family, or any other hobby that you enjoy. Taking care of yourself should be your top priority in such situations. 


5. Seek Professional Help: If you feel particularly overwhelmed or are struggling to cope with the Manipulator’s behaviour, it may be helpful to seek professional help. 





Remember that you deserve to be respected, loved, and safety First.

Mar 15, 2024

second law of thermodynamics



The second law of thermodynamics is an important principle that governs the behaviour of energy within a system. This law states that energy within a system tends to become more evenly distributed or equalized over time. This means that if there is a source of energy within a system, it will tend to spread out and become less concentrated over time. For example, if you have a hot cup of coffee, the heat energy within the coffee will spread out into the surrounding air until the temperature of the coffee and the air are the same.

Now, let's talk about the psychological principle of Equivalence. This principle suggests that

😍 emotions,
🧠 thoughts, and
💪 behaviours seek 

A state of balance or equilibrium within an individual's mind and body. 

In other words, we tend to seek out experiences and behaviours that help us achieve a sense of balance and harmony within ourselves

For instance, 

👉if a person is experiencing a lot of stress at work, this stress can build up within them and create an imbalance. To restore balance and harmony, the individual may engage in activities that help release this stress and achieve a sense of equilibrium, such as exercising, talking to a friend, or practising mindfulness [ Positive examples ]

These activities can help distribute the emotional energy within the person and promote a sense of well-being. 

Conversely, 

👉 if a person is constantly suppressing their emotions or ignoring their needs, this can create an imbalance within them as well. Over time, this can lead to mental health issues, such as anxiety or depression, as the emotional energy within them is not being properly distributed or equalized.

 Overall, just like energy seeks to be evenly distributed in a system according to the second law of thermodynamics, our psychological energy—in the form of emotions, thoughts, and behaviours—also tends to seek balance and harmony within ourselves to maintain well-being.


Mar 6, 2024

lite is Light


 

Rise above their negativity and show them that their toxic behavior won't affect you.


The goal of Toxic People is to trigger you, so how do you stay balanced without reacting?


1. Toxic people aim to trigger you and enjoy watching you lose control. Don't give them what they want. 


2. Know yourself and don't take things personally. 


3. Listen to criticism and feedback, but ignore untruths. Don't defend yourself from attacks of untruths and stand in your power non-reactively. 


4. Observe the drama like a third-party observer and maintain your detachment. 


5. Try the TIME OUT technique to disengage from negative interactions and regain control. 


6. Think rationally and logically, not emotionally. 


7. Take deep breaths or find something humorous to lighten the mood. 


8. Don't let toxic people lower your self-worth. Stand brave in your own shoes. Remember, their behaviour says more about them than it does about you. Don't let it bring you down.


9. Don't give in to their demands and reverse their conditioning plan.


10. Toxic people feed off your reactions, so starve them by staying calm and collected


Detailed Explanation :


They know they have power over you if they can trigger you. They enjoy watching you lose your balance as if it's like watching a movie for them. They enjoy seeing your reaction and your pain. Knowing they can influence, imbalance, and control you feeds their Ego. They want you to act out and do things that they can use against you in the future. Therefore, it's essential to not let them influence you. 


But how can you do that?


1) Know your Truth, Know who you are. 

Having a profound sense of who you truly are is essential to living a fulfilling life. It involves developing a


💓 keen sense of self-awareness,

💓 accepting your strengths and weaknesses,

💓recognizing opportunities for personal growth and

💓addressing any challenges that may hinder your well-being.


When you possess a deep understanding of your values and identity, the opinions of others become less influential, and you can make decisions and choices that are in alignment with your authentic self. Self-awareness empowers you to lead a purposeful and satisfying life that is based on your inner truth and aspirations. .


2) Don't take things personally; the way people treat other people is a direct reflection of the way they feel about themselves.- In Psychology, Projection means " You attribute your own stuff to another person. " A thief thinks all are thieves, and a liar thinks all are liars."


People's actions are a mirror of inner struggles. Don't internalize negativity; see it as a reflection of their issues, not yours. Firmly stand Above it by self-assurance. Your worth is intrinsic, not dictated by external perceptions. Let their projections be a testament to your resilience and unwavering truth. Stay empowered in your self-awareness, unshaken by the opinions of others.


3. Listen to what people say check if the criticism is feedback 


🍁 having something to learn or change in you, do it; 

🍁 if you can say Sorry, Say it and close it. 

🍁 If there is NO TRUTH in their words, Just IGNORE it and move on. 


Remember this quote?


You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.


Do not defend yourself from attacks of untruths; it will make you a Victim. You know what truth is, so just stand in your power. 


👉 No NEED TO PROVE. Just know your truth, 

👉 give them facts, and stand in your power, 

👉 UNAFFECTED and non-reactive.


Don't take abusive words talked before you personally. Look at them as a 3rd party observer in a detached way. 


👀Watch it like it's not happening to you;

 🔎 it is you watching a bathuku jatka bandi kind of show. 


👉  You are not part of it, and don't become part of the drama;

👉  just calmly observe.


👅 Verbalize the drama you are observing in front of you: 

👅"I see that X is upset, 

👅 I see that y is calling me stupid, 

👅 I see that z is laughing at me LoooL. 


;

👉   All these help you to be non-reactive to some extent.

💀 Anyway, the best way is always to avoid people and such situations.


4) 👋👌👋 One technique is TIME OUT, which involves


👋 separating oneself from situations that could CAUSE negative behaviours or emotions.


 👋 It involves Disengaging from situations or behaviours that may provide 𝐭𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐫𝐲 pleasure of emotional release but ultimately lead to 𝐧𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬. This technique can be a powerful tool for promoting self-awareness, emotional regulation, and adaptive behaviour change. 


💩The primary purpose of TIME OUT is to interrupt an ongoing behaviour pattern or interaction that is unproductive, harmful or causing negativity. 


💤 The technique offers individuals a brief break and a chance to regain composure, reflect on their actions, and choose a different course of behaviour or response. When an individual recognizes that they are engaging in a counterproductive or detrimental behaviour, they can choose to initiate TIME OUT. 


TIME OUT involves


👋 physically leaving a situation or 

 👋 Leaving a conversation, 

👋 pausing or mentally disengaging from the stimulus that is triggering the unwanted behaviour. 


💤The duration of TIME OUT can vary depending on the individual's needs and the context of the situation. 


👉 It is typically a temporary break, allowing the individual time to calm down, gain perspective, and refocus before re-engaging with the situation more constructively. 


TIME OUT promotes self-regulation by encouraging individuals to pause and reflect on their actions, feelings, and motivations. It provides an opportunity 


💚 to regain emotional control, 

💚 manage impulsive reactions, and 

💚 make more deliberate choices in response to challenging situations.

 

During the TIME OUT period, engage in 


💓 self-soothing activities,

 💧 relaxation techniques or 

 ➕ positive coping strategies to manage distress and regain emotional balance. 


This helps shift focus away from the triggering stimuli and towards healthier, more adaptive responses. 


5)👄 Reason Logically and NOT emotionally. Analyze every drama that's in front of you with Logic.


8) 💢 When life throws us a curveball, it can be tough to keep our heads up and stay positive. However, there are a few things we can do to help ease the pain. One option is to


💋👃take deep breaths and practice belly breathing, which can help calm our minds and bodies. Another option is to


😍find something humorous in the situation - after all, laughter is often the best medicine. As the saying goes, life is a comedy to those who think and a tragedy to those who feel. By shifting our perspective and finding the humor in things, we can help alleviate some of the pain and stress that comes with adversity.


9)There are times when people may say hurtful things to you. It is important to understand that some individuals may resort to verbal attacks as a means of boosting their own ego. By putting you down, they feel a temporary sense of superiority over you. However, it is essential that you do not entertain this behaviour. Instead, try to remain non-reactive and do not give them the satisfaction of knowing that their words have affected you. If you react, it will only give them the sense that they have achieved their goal of making you feel inferior. Remember, their intention is to devalue you, which, in turn, makes them feel better about themselves. It is important to recognize this behaviour for what it is and not allow it to bring you down.


10) Always remember that you should never let someone else's words or actions intimidate you. Instead, you should stand tall and confident in your own shoes, no matter who you're up against. Doesn't matter how great he or she is, it's crucial to maintain your own sense of self-worth and self-respect. Remember that you are just as deserving of respect as anyone else, and you have the power to stand up for yourself and assert your own needs and boundaries. So don't be afraid to speak your mind and stay true to yourself, even in the face of opposition. 


11) Start not giving in to their demands. Do not let them condition you. When you start NOT giving in to their demands, you are preparing them in reverse, telling them not to play with you and helping them know their boundaries.


12) walk away from the situation. Agree to Disagree & walk away. Avoiding before it becomes complex is always the best. Avoid the heated moment if it is disrespectful, demeaning, or too demanding and get back to them later to resolve it peacefully. 


Hey -- 


"You are not in a mood to discuss now; you are upset; please cool down; we can talk peacefully when you are cool; it's not the right time to talk as you are yelling, so we can talk later when you are cool."


13) Never speak or do something that you may regret later


14) Only respond, don't react. If at all you decide to respond, do it without any emotions. Do not overshare, Do not Justify; just respond with facts in brief.


15) say phrases like " I agree that it is your perception, I agree that you see it that way but.., you have ur perception and you are entitled to your own thoughts just I am to my thoughts."


16) RESPOND DON'T REACT


When you react to a person's negative comments or actions in an angry, overly emotional or aggressive way, 


👉 then you are giving that person power over you. If a person can easily get a rise from you, then you are no longer in control.


If you take a moment and respond in a calm, healthy, honest and real way, then you are in control. You are not allowing anyone to take your power away or invoke a reaction from you. 


Unfortunately, there are certain people who want nothing more than to make you look bad by provoking you to react in a hostile or negative manner. (Feel free to disappoint them)


17) Keep ALL communication with toxic people - B.I.F.F.


👅 Brief

👅 Informative

👅 Friendly

👅  Firm


💓short and sweet" and to the point" and record ( so when they change words, you can show it )


18) Don't J A.D. E. because Liars know that they are lying. No point in proving them. JADE means

  • 🆇 Justify.
  • 🆇 Argue.
  • 🆇Defend.
  • 🆇Explain
  • Your goal here is to discourage the DRAMA

 


Stay strong and confident in who you are, and NEVER let toxic people shake your foundation.