Have you ever felt like your inner demons were coming out to play? scaredy CAT ???

 Have you ever felt like your inner demons were coming out to play? It's a scary feeling, isn't it?

 When desperation takes over, it can reveal itself in the most unexpected and often regrettable ways. The saying 'desperate times call for desperate measures' holds true, but the measures taken in such times can lead to irreversible consequences. The depths to which someone can sink in their desperation are truly unpredictable.

Desperation can drive people to extraordinary lengths in the pursuit of survival. However, we are rational humans, so fear and uncertainty should not dictate our actions. It's crucial to maintain a sense of CALM & composure, even in the most dire of circumstances, to retain control and resilience.

Did you know that people who hate each other can actually love each other because of desperate needs? It's true.

Desperate individuals are often perceived as dangerous due to their potential for unpredictable & extreme behaviour. It's as if they are being influenced by their 'shadow selves'- the suppressed or hidden aspects of their personality that can surface in harmful ways when pushed to their limits.

Desperation can cause intense anxiety and aggression. When you have big worries or problems inside that you haven't figured out, it can make you feel really scared and mad. This can make you feel like things don't make sense and make you very sad. Sometimes, when you feel this way, you might do things that are not good. You might try to protect yourself by acting mean or aggressive to stop feeling so bad.

When someone is feeling really upset and scared, they might start doing things that they learned are a way to feel better, even if those things are bad for him/her.. It's like their mind is trying to protect them, but it can end up causing more harm than good.

So, when desperation comes knocking, remember to stay calm and THINK  - Logically. Don't let fear and uncertainty cloud your judgment. 

 Above all, practice kindness toward yourself and others, even in the most desperate situations. Empathy can be a beacon of hope in the darkest of times.

Archana's journey from Pain to healing:

Once upon a time, there lived a woman named Archana who suffered from chronic Emotional Suffering. She had taken advice from countless well-wishers & relatives and tried everything under the sun, but nothing seemed to help reduce her HURT. Her Overthinking & emotional pain consumed & & burned her and left her feeling isolated and alone.

One day, Archana stumbled upon a meditation class. Desperate for any relief, she decided to give it a try. Her mind began to quiet as she closed her eyes and focused on her SQUARE breathing technique. The pain didn't disappear, but it no longer felt like the only thing in her world.

Through her meditation practice & chanting, Archana learned to make peace with her pain. She began to see it as a part of her, but not all of her. She found moments of joy and gratitude even amidst the discomfort.

Over time, Archana's HURT felt more manageable. She still had bad days, but she also had moments of peace. And that made all the difference.

P.S :-

 Research has shown that certain breathing techniques, such as deep diaphragmatic breathing or paced breathing, can effectively regulate emotional states. 

Slow and deep breathing can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting a sense of tranquillity and reducing feelings of stress. 

When experiencing emotional pain or distress, the RAIN DANCE technique can be helpful. This method involves 

R - recognizing the emotion you are feeling, 

A- accepting all you cannot change,

I-  investigating your own emotions and bodily reactions and 

N- nurturing yourself with self-care practices. Additionally, you can imagine colour breathing to help you relax and manage your emotions.

Archana Vedantam holds the copyrights for this story : Vani's 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭 𝐓𝐫𝐢𝐩

 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐆𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭 𝐓𝐫𝐢𝐩: Vani's conscience displays a nagging inner voice, constantly reminding her of her failed attempt to steal

Vani had a strong desire for wealth, which led her to steal money using another person's emotional weakness. Despite her initial success in exploiting others' emotional weaknesses, when he left his emotions and took a Rigid Stand against her, her greediness bothered her, and she felt guilty about her actions. This guilt weighed heavily on her, and she started to doubt herself. Slowly, She fell into a deep depression.

Her philosophical inquiries into the nature of good and evil revealed to her the complex and contradictory nature of humanity, and she was forced to confront the darker aspects of her personality. In the process of self-reflection, she realized that her pursuit of wealth and status had led her wrong, causing her to lose sight of the truly important things in life. She reflected inwardly and FINALLY apologized.

𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐥 :

This story teaches us that :

Wanting too much money and success can lead to bad behaviour. When Vani steals, she feels guilty and sad. She finally learns that being kind and honest is more important than having many worldly things.

By apologizing and trying to make things right, she shows that we can improve by thinking about our actions and caring about others.

Archana Vedantam holds the copyright for this story. [Don't copy 😜 ok ?? ]

 

Distraction techniques to avoid thinking about DEATH hahaaa

It's important to remember that true happiness cannot be achieved through external means alone, such as indulging in ice cream or accumulating wealth. Humans are driven by many deep-seated and unconscious needs that may go unfulfilled even when we pursue material pleasures.

 While enjoying a scoop of ice cream may offer temporary happiness, it's not enough to address our deeper psychological needs as individuals. Real and lasting fulfilment comes from embracing the entirety of ourselves, including the less visible aspects such as our "shadow" and "anima/animus."

It's crucial to liberate ourselves from the constraints of societal expectations and embrace our true selves. However, it's understandable to feel a need for external validation and a fear of rejection, which may cause us to seek happiness through external means.

Erich Fromm, a profound observer of human nature, identified the five universal human needs essential for psychological well-being and positive growth. These include 

1. Relatedness: The profound need to forge connections, build meaningful relationships, and experience a deep sense of belonging.
2. Transcendence is the need to go beyond oneself, seek meaning and purpose in life, and engage in activities that give a sense of fulfilment.
3. Rootedness: The need to feel grounded, connected to nature and the world around us, and have a sense of stability and continuity.
4. Identity: The need to have a sense of self, know who we are, and feel authentic in our thoughts, feelings, and actions.
5. Frame of Orientation and Devotion: We need a belief system or values to guide our lives and provide a sense of direction and purpose.

According to Fromm's perspective, fulfilling these needs is crucial for human flourishing and overall well-being.

Denying despair means denying a fundamental part of life, and true fulfilment cannot be attained by solely seeking happiness. Living a good life means accepting both the good and bad things that happen. It also means taking charge of your own life. Even though you can't control everything that happens to you, you can choose how you respond. For instance, if you fall off the monkey bars and hurt yourself, you can choose to rest or keep playing. You have the power to make decisions that are best for you.

HAPPINESS - 

 1. Investing in experiences over possessions: This approach suggests that deep, lasting happiness is more likely to come from experiences such as travel, cultural events, or outdoor activities rather than from just accumulating material possessions. Experiences enrich our lives, create memories, and foster personal growth. 

 2. Prioritizing health and well-being: This approach involves investing in things that contribute to physical and mental well-being, such as fitness equipment, nutritious food, or meditation apps. The idea is that taking care of one's health is foundational to overall happiness. 

 3. Engaging in hobbies and creative outlets: Pursuing hobbies or creative activities is seen as a way to find joy and fulfilment. These activities can provide a sense of accomplishment, an outlet for unique self-expression, and opportunities for social interaction. 

 4. Seeking education and personal growth resources: This includes investing in learning new skills or knowledge through courses, books, or workshops. Pursuing personal development is believed to lead to greater self-awareness, confidence, and, ultimately, happiness. 

 Each of these points reflects the belief that happiness is influenced not just by what we have but more by what we do and how we engage with the world and ourselves.

I think having the strength to make decisions and take control of one's own life is essential for experiencing true freedom & Happiness

is it DOMINANCE behavior or just old plain NOSINESS ?

Have you ever wondered why some people bother you for no

apparent reason?

Is it a way for them to show dominance, or are they just being

nosy?

Let's delve a bit deeper into this concept of psychological dominance behaviour.

According to different theories, people engage in bothering behavior for various reasons. For example, Sigmund Freud believed that

👉 it could be due to their own unresolved conflicts or

👉 deep-seated needs for control.

Carl Jung's theory suggests that

👉 individuals may project their own insecurities onto others.

Karen Horney's theory emphasizes the

👉 impact of their interpersonal relationships,Family & external factors in shaping behavior.

Behaviour analysts like John B. Watson see such behavior

👉 as learned and reinforced through past experiences. As they got attention or got rewarded for dominating or showing such behaviour

But what can you do when someone tries to bother or offend

you?

The key is to not let them get to you.

Remember, it's like a game of winning and losing.

👉 If you get upset, you lose, and they win. However,

👉 if you don't get upset, you win, and they lose.

By maintaining your composure and behaving respectfully towards them, you are reframing the situation and potentially extinguishing their behavior.

And if someone criticizes you, instead of feeling hurt,

👉 respond with a simple "thank you."

This shows that you are not affected by their criticism and that you are confident in yourself. Overall, it's important to maintain a sense of dignity and respect in the face of offensive behavior. You can control your reactions and not let others determine your emotional state.

But what if you feel like the world is full of selfish, exploitative, and dishonest people?

👀💨 Instead of focusing on their negative traits, heal that part of you that created them. Start your day with

💕a grateful heart, and be thankful for the little things in life because things can be more worse too and they are not for you now. And remember, the remedy to your problems is within you. You are the master of your emotions, and you dictate your reality. So go ahead and decide what to do and what not to do. You are in control,

and you've got this

Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.

- Arnold Schwarzenegger

SOME POINTS TO REMEMBER :

1.Autonomy and Coping Mechanisms:

Everyone has defense mechanisms that help them cope with conflicts, but it's important to recognize and understand them for personal growth.

2.Establishing Boundaries:

Setting boundaries and standing up against mistreatment is important to protect your well-being.

3. Emotional Resilience:

Remember that emotions are temporary, and by acknowledging this, you can navigate emotional challenges with resilience.https://youtu.be/vjKltKKSur8?si=54ep87EAvus8_shf

4. Adult Self-Protection

As an adult, you have allies, resources, and skills to protect yourself, and it's important to focus on your internal strength and independence.

5. Mind-Body Connection:

A holistic approach to easing fear and stress involves reconnecting with your body and practising relaxation techniques.

6. Self-Compassion and Positive Affirmations:

Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations to shift towards a healthier self-perception.

7. Grief and Healing:

Allowing yourself to grieve and process emotions is important for personal growth and emotional healing.

8. Self-Protection and Preventive Measures

Avoid unsafe environments and practice self-care in triggering situations to protect yourself.

9. Gradual Progress in Recovery:

Real recovery is a gradually progressive process [often two steps forward, one step back], not an attained salvation fantasy. Being patient and resilient in the journey towards healing and growth is important.

Finding strength in beliefs during times of uncertainty

 

SCRIPT 

Good Morning

I hope this message finds you well. Today, I want to share with you a message that is deeply personal to me. It's about my Beliefs and values, which have helped me navigate through my life's challenges and uncertainties.

Firstly, let me share with you that I was separated from my parents when I was just 11 years old. Whenever I received a call from them, I used to break down in tears upon hearing my mother's voice. Even she used to cry due to her Helplessness. However, I reunited with my parents after completing my MBA. So, I believe life is like a Maze, a complex and challenging path full of unexpected twists, turns, corners, and surprising barriers. Although it may be tempting to demand certainty in life when it does NOT exist, I have learned that uncertainty is NOT naturally dangerous. 

At the core of my journey, I believe in my inherent worth, independent of external factors such as my performance, appearance, or others' opinions. This belief, coupled with my audacity to live boldly and fearlessly, regardless of external validation or criticism, has been a powerful source of drive for me. It's a reminder that others do not define our worth but our own beliefs in ourselves.

  

Another lesson life has taught me is the value of recognizing our divine protection, a force that guides us through life's unpredictable paths, providing us with strength and resilience. These paths are rarely straight and often filled with unexpected twists, turns, and steep climbs. In such a world, I've chosen to prioritize my own self-improvement over trying to change people around me or trying to change others in the world. I firmly believe that self-introspection and understanding our own true emotions are far more valuable than the noises or distractions of the world.  

I believe in facing challenges and criticism with a True spirit, a spirit that is authentic, resilient, and unyielding. Suffering can transform us, and enduring tough times can lead to spiritual awakening. By controlling our emotions and cultivating inner strength, we can remain resilient in tough times. Sadness, anger, and fear can offer valuable insights into our deepest Desires and Vulnerabilities, guiding us towards personal growth and self-discovery.  

In a world where Judgement and criticism are rampant, I choose empathy before judgment, understanding over condemnation, and love over hate. I believe in the power of human introspection and firmly believe that our actions, no matter how small, can impact others. I share this belief with you because I value you and respect the impact we all can have on each other'sother's lives.

Always Remember that life is a journey filled with challenges and uncertainties but also full of opportunities for growth and happiness. When you are stressed, please Put all your problems on hold, and when you have the energy and perspective,  Face them one by one with hope and a positive mind. 

As Maya Angelou once said, ''I may be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.'' Let us all continue progressing, developing, and shining our light on the world. Let us all stay firm, seize every PRAY-zent moment, and always remember to take care of ourselves and our loved ones.

 With all this in mind, we can conquer anything that comes our way.

Thank you

P.S : -

Perception - a particular way of looking at or understanding something; opinion

you are not responsible for someone else's distorted opinion of you. Instead, stand firm in your own truth and light. Always remember that perception is subjective and depends on one's understanding and mindset. So, don't be disheartened when someone doubts your abilities. Be proud of yourself, because people doubt the purity of gold, not iron. Keep shining!

LOVE Self-Esteem Destroyers:- Because feeling terrible about yourself never felt so good!

Have you ever felt like you're a part of a Big-GAME where everyone is trying to figure things out and be in charge? 

Well, you're not alone. 

This game is called Life, and we're all players in it. We face challenges and interact with different people every day, and sometimes, it can feel like a constant battle to stay ahead. 

 But what if I told you that it doesn't have to be this way? What if I told you that you could use these experiences to your advantage and become a better player in the game of Life?  

The truth is people play games all the time. From the board games we play with our family to the mind games Mr Chakri plays at work, games are an integral part of our lives. And just like in any game, we can use rules and strategies to improve our chances of success. 

 One of the most important aspects of any game is understanding the different players involved. In Life, we encounter people from all walks of Life, each with their own set of motivations, desires, and goals. By learning how to recognize these different players and their behaviours, we can better anticipate their moves and respond accordingly.  

For example, have you ever dealt with someone who always seems to be trying to manipulate you? Maybe they use guilt trips, passive-aggressive comments, comparisons, Gaslighting, speaking to destroy your self-esteem, threatening, fake praises, future faking, Love-bombing, Projecting, Triangulation, Playing the victim, Hoarding information, Invalidating, Bait-and-switch, tactics to confuse, Emotional blackmail, Scapegoating, Flattery to get their way. These players are often called "manipulators", and they can be incredibly frustrating to deal with. But by learning how to recognize their tactics and responding in a calm and assertive manner, Briefly & softly, you can minimize their impact and take control of the situation. 

 Another important aspect of any game is learning how to manage your emotions. In Life, we face all sorts of challenges that can trigger our anxiety, anger, or sadness. But by learning how to control these emotions and respond in a rational and logical manner, we can avoid making hasty decisions that we might later regret.  

So, next time you find yourself in a challenging situation, remember that you're a player in the game of Life. Take a deep breath, assess the situation, and think about the different players involved. By understanding their motivations and behaviours, you can develop strategies that will help you stay ahead of the game. 

 In the end, Life is a game that we all must play. But by learning how to play it well, we can become more skilled, confident, and booming players. So, embrace the challenges and opportunities that come your way, and remember that every experience is a chance to learn and grow.

Be the Light even for Others

Any form of manipulation gives the perpetrator a sense of superiority from being able to control the reaction of others

Ever Wondered Why Vani's actions are Out of Control? Is She Possessed by a Ghost ?

Have you ever wondered why you react a certain way to a situation while others don't?

Why do you have certain beliefs that guide your thoughts and actions? 

The answer lies in our hidden beliefs and thoughts that we may not even realize we have.

Long ago, two great thinkers, Freud and Jung, explored the power of our hidden desires, past experiences, and shared ideas that shape our behavior. Freud believed that our actions are guided by hidden thoughts and desires that we may not even be aware of. On the other hand, Jung believed that our behavior is shaped by shared ideas and patterns in our minds.

What we believe, based on our experiences and what we've been taught, creates a coloured lens through which we see the world. These beliefs affect how we think, feel, and act. For instance, if you believe that people are generally kind and helpful, you are more likely to approach them with a positive attitude. Similarly, if you believe that people are inherently selfish and cruel, you may be more guarded and suspicious of others and find more such people.

These beliefs are like the glasses you wear to see the world. They influence how you think, see,feel & act. Everyone wears different glasses, some that make you feel good and some that make you feel bad. What you believe may not be true for everyone, but it shapes how you see and react to things around you.

But what about hidden traumas, unresolved conflicts, and repressed memories?

These too can have a profound impact on our beliefs and behaviors. Traumatic experiences can create deep-seated fears and anxieties that can affect how we approach life. Unresolved conflicts and repressed memories can also shape our beliefs and attitudes towards ourselves and others.

So, what can we do about this? 

👉 By understanding and exploring these beliefs, we can learn more about why we do what we do and grow as people. 

👉 We can challenge our beliefs and question why we hold them. 

👉 We can also seek the help of a therapist or counselor to work through traumatic experiences or unresolved conflicts.


In conclusion, our beliefs and thoughts play a big role in how we behave. By recognizing and understanding them, we can learn to see the world in a new light and grow as individuals. So, take a moment to reflect on your beliefs and ask yourself if they are serving you well. If not, it may be time to take off those old glasses and try on a new pair.

Intelligence =being able to understand the world, think critically, and use resources effectively when facing life's challenges.

A- Activating event: Identifying the situation or event that triggered your emotional response.

B - Belief system: Recognizing and examining the automatic thoughts and underlying beliefs associated with the event.

C - Consequences: Understanding the emotional and behavioral consequences resulting from your beliefs.

D - Dispute: Challenging and questioning the accuracy and validity of your beliefs by gathering evidence and alternative perspectives.

E - Effect: Re-evaluating your beliefs and replacing them with more balanced, rational, and realistic thoughts, leading to adaptive emotions and behaviors.

Have you ever wondered what your pet thinks about when they're sleeping?

 Animals have secret thoughts and dreams. Cats sleep a lot, so I wonder what exciting adventures they imagine. 

The world is full of mysteries if we think and wonder about it.

I don't have patience like JESUS

 

Is your husband working late EVERY night? Busy 24/7**365 ?? - It's a --- LIE

 Lies: The Complex Psychology Behind Deception and How to Detect It

Lies are a part of human communication and are an essential aspect of social interaction, yet they can have serious consequences when used to deceive or manipulate others. From white lies to more elaborate falsehoods, lies can take many forms and have different motivations.

At its core, lying is a defense mechanism that individuals use to protect themselves from distressing or unacceptable truths. According to the father of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, lying is a manifestation of defense mechanisms such as

😉repression ["Suppression" refers to the act of intentionally forgetting something, while "repression" refers to the unconscious act of forgetting something. ] or

👎denial [Denial is when someone believes that their understanding of what's happening is correct, even if it's not true. They think that their own sense of what's real is the ONLY truth. ]

that individuals employ to shield themselves from uncomfortable realities. Lying can serve as a means of maintaining a certain self-image or avoiding confrontation with uncomfortable truths.

However, lying is not always a conscious act. Confabulation is a phenomenon where an individual unintentionally fabricates false information without awareness. This can arise as a way for the individual to fill in memory gaps or create a coherent narrative, often based on fragments of truth mixed with imagination. From a psychoanalytic perspective, confabulation could be seen as a defense mechanism to protect the individual from distressing gaps in memory or a fragmented sense of self.

So, NOW, how can we detect deception? Dr. Paul Ekman's research on lying has identified several indicators of deception, such as

👅 inconsistencies in facial expressions,

💢Inconsistencies in speech patterns and

👻Inconsistencies in gestures.

His work has focused on understanding the facial expressions, body language, & verbal cues associated with deception. Dr. Ekman has identified MICRO-EXPRESSIONS,

👉which are fleeting facial expressions that reveal a person's true emotions quickly, even when they are trying to conceal them.

He has also explored the use of

💫💨Layered Voice Analysis (LVA), a technology that analyzes characteristics of speech such as

👉 voice pitch,

👉 intonation, voice modulations & timing to assess credibility and detect deception.

Moreover, Dr. Vrij developed Criteria-Based Content Analysis (CBCA), a method for analyzing verbal statements to detect deception based on specific criteria related to the statement's content. This approach has been used in investigative interviewing and lie detection.

Dr. Hartwig has studied verbal cues that may signal deception, such as

👉 linguistic strategies,

👉 speech patterns, and

👉 content analysis of statements to identify inconsistencies or omissions that could indicate lying. 

 TIPS : 

1. Pay attention to actions and whether they agree with words.

2. Be aware that the slickest way to lie is to tell the right amount of truth--then shut up. 

3. Recognize that the power to lead is the power to mislead, and the power to mislead is the power to destroy.

4. Remember that what we feel is a choice, which may not necessarily be the truth. 

5. Resist the urge to fill in missing information when listening to a person’s story. Pay attention to exactly what is said and not said.

6. Look out for insincere, non-Duchenne smiles, which are still considered one of the most common indicators of deception. 

7. Remember that the devil will tell you nine truths out of ten, so that you’ll believe that one lie. 

8. Be aware that the polygraph test is not a lie detector. It only detects emotional arousal. 

9. Remember that the longer the other person talks, the more chance they have of slipping up. 

10. Use open-ended questions to get people to surrender information voluntarily and observe. 

11. Observe the liar's body language, as they will display less emotions while speaking than they or an average person normally would in their situation. These emotions will instead leak through in their body language. Most commonly, this manifests in more frequent blinking, pupil dilation, speech disturbances, and tongue slips.

12. Shaky or Averting Eyes: It is often believed that liars may have shifty or evasive eye movements. They may avoid direct eye contact or exhibit a lack of eye contact altogether

Direction of Eye Movements: There is a theory called neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) that suggests a connection between eye movements and whether a person is accessing memories (looking to the left) or creating something new (looking to the right) when they speak. However eye movements ALONE may not be a reliable indicator of deception.


In Conclusion, Lying is complex and has profound implications. Understanding the psychology behind it can detect deception and build honest relationships.

A pinch of salt won't turn me into a sour grape

What do you get when you combine rudeness and vulnerability? 

No, it's not a recipe for disaster - it's actually a recipe for deeper intimacy and connection in relationships!

According to Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, we use defence mechanisms to protect ourselves from confronting uncomfortable truths or feelings. But sometimes, our defense mechanisms can inadvertently reveal deeper emotions or vulnerabilities that could foster closer connections with others. 

Carl Jung believed that being open and authentic, even if it means sharing unconventional or controversial aspects of oneself, can lead to a deeper understanding of both oneself and the other person. In other words, it's time to embrace your inner weirdness and let your freak flag fly!

 Now, I know what you're thinking: "But won't being rude or offensive just push people away?" Not necessarily. By taking risks and being open about personal thoughts or desires, individuals may navigate a path towards greater authenticity and acceptance in relationships. Plus, embracing the shadow self and integrating opposites can lead to greater harmony and balance in your relationships - like the perfect combination of salty and sweet flavours in food.

 So, the next time you find yourself tempted to hide your true thoughts and feelings, remember that being a little bit rude and vulnerable also might just be the key to unlocking deeper intimacy and connection in your relationships.

 Who knew that being a little bit weird could be so beneficial?

It is ok to think DIFFERENTLY. 

Why fit in when you are born to stand out?

Laughing uncontrollably with tears in response to mundane daily situations is my cardio

I have observed that some women use excessive laughter as a defence mechanism to cope with negative emotions, pains, and overwhelming stress and anxiety. This behaviour represents the pleasure principle - an innate drive to seek immediate gratification or pleasure in challenging situations.

On the other hand, I have also witnessed women crying loudly to release pent-up emotions that have been repressed or denied. This behaviour manifests the reality principle - the need to conform to the constraints of the external world. Women may feel compelled to suppress their emotions due to societal pressures or expectations, leading to an accumulation of emotions that eventually need to be released by Crying

Unfortunately, women are still not completely independent. We need a society where women feel empowered to navigate their emotions healthily and constructively, free from the fear of judgment or stigma. We must remember that we are not fixed objects like chairs or fans, but we are capable of change. We are humans with a brain so we can control our thoughts and have control over our emotions irrespective of circumstances and people.

Viktor E. Frankl once said, "We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way

Flaw Finders have BIG invisible magnifying glasses & detective hats to turn bits of food fallen on the floor into crime scenes & turn kid's socks into conspiracies!

Have you ever noticed how some people become obsessed with Finding flaws in others? It's like they're equipped with a magnifying lens, scouring every inch of a person's being.

It's a fascinating phenomenon that can reveal a lot about human nature.

There are several reasons why someone might behave like that  : 

1)  Individuals may 

👉 project their own insecurities and fears onto others. 

This can serve as a defense mechanism to 

👉 deflect attention away from their own personal shortcomings or to boost one's own self-esteem by highlighting the faults of others.

2)  Individuals evaluate their own abilities and opinions by comparing themselves to others. When people search for faults in others, it may serve as a 

👉 way to enhance their own self-image through downward social comparison. By focusing on the flaws of others, individuals might feel superior or more competent in comparison,  

👉 boosting their self-worth and self-perception. 

3) People who habitually seek out faults in others may also do so 

to validate their 

👉 own beliefs, 

👉 own choices, or

👉 own  behaviors.

4) By highlighting the faults of others, individuals may feel a sense of

👉 reassurance or 

👉 justification for their own actions,

 leading to a temporary boost in self-esteem or a sense of superiority.Eg: " You are stupid so it is not wrong to behave badly with you, you need to be slapped & CONTROLLED."

5) Criticizing or finding faults in others can be a way for individuals to 

👉 exert power, 

👉 control, or 

👉 dominance in a social or interpersonal dynamic.

6) By pointing out weaknesses in others, individuals may attempt to 

👉establish a sense of authority or superiority within relationships or groups. 

7) Constantly focusing on the faults of others can serve as a 

👉 distraction from addressing one's own faults or shortcomings. 

It may be easier for some individuals to criticize others rather than engage in self-reflection and personal growth. 

These various perspectives shed light on why people may be more inclined to search for flaws in others, but it's important to remember that this behaviour can harm Others.

Craving to consume a thousand calories in one sitting ???

Have you ever had a craving for something that you knew wasn't good for you, but you just couldn't resist?

That's the feeling of an oral-dependent wish - a desire driven by laziness and greed, particularly in the realm of oral satisfaction. It's like a little voice inside your head that says, 

"Just one more cookie won't hurt!" or "I deserve this fancy coffee even though it's not in my budget." 

But beware - these desires can quickly turn into overindulgence, impulsive actions, and a constant need for sensory pleasure. You might find yourself binge-eating, overspending, or seeking instant gratification through indulgent activities.

 And the more you give in to these desires, the harder it becomes to resist them in the future. The laziness aspect of oral-dependent wishes can be seen in a reluctance to put in effort or engage in activities that require discipline, persistence, or delayed gratification. 

It's so much easier to take shortcuts or opt for the quick fix than to work towards a long-term goal. And then there's greed - the insatiable desire for more, even beyond what is necessary or reasonable. This can lead to excessive materialism, hoarding, or an inability to appreciate what one already has.

 It's a never-ending cycle of wanting more and more without any regard for the consequences. 

But there is hope! 

By recognizing these tendencies within yourself, you can strive for a balance between satisfying your desires and maintaining self-discipline, mindfulness, and consideration for others. It's all about developing a sense of moderation, self-awareness, and gratitude.

So next time you feel that little voice inside your head, take a moment to pause and ask yourself if it's really worth it ??? 

 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮!

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